Purpose (or Purposelessness)
Pai Thailand cute cafe
Pai Thailand cafe quote true meaning of life

Pai, Thailand 2/19/2017

I sit in this cafe gazing at the sign next to me (below), and wonder if I’ve made this process too difficult.

The True Meaning of Life

“We are visitors on this planet. We are here for ninety or one hundred years at the very most. During that period, we must try to do something good, something useful, with our lives. If you contribute to other people’s happiness, you will find the true goal, the meaning of life.” – His Holiness Dalai Lama XIV

For all the endless rumination about what I’m supposed to with my life, all my musings about how contribute to the world, all the therapy and career coaching trying to figure out what’s next, I now sit here feeling like, shit, this could be really simple. More . . .

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Fear Taught Me the Best Lesson; Failure Made it the Most Memorable
Inle Lake Myanmar Boats Sunset

Bagan, Myanmar. February 1, 2017

I struggle to type due to the limited mobility of my left arm. This should contribute brevity to what I am about to say.

This trip is about getting out my comfort zone, which I’ve accomplished in both large and small ways.

A handful of my latest adventures: Riding a bicycle for the first time in 17 years.  Meeting and hanging out with strangers (without booze even!).  Hiking a gorgeous island mountain. Kayaking the Thai sea with a new friend. 

But riding a motorbike was not on the list.

It seemed too dangerous, especially for someone just getting reacquainted with a regular old bicycle.  Yet, if you want to see pagodas in Bagan, renting an e-bike is the only way to get around.  More . . .

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On Tonsai Beach and Post-Thailand Life and Career Plans
Tonsai, Thailand, Travel, monkey

1/24/2017- The makeshift jungle bar that I’m currently nestled in is composed almost entirely of local sustainable wood and bamboo. I’ve stumbled upon this gem in the middle of the daily afternoon blackout; the beer is vaguely reminiscent of being cold. The wifi is down so I’m forced to scrawl chicken scratches in my trusty notebook.

Hippy dudes with blonde dreads play ping pong with carefree girls in bikini tops.  One ambitious woman dares tread a slack line in the back of the bar, with variable levels of success. The air is thick with tropical haze and the buzz of mosquitoes. The vibe is laissez-faire. More . . .

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3 Wrong Ways to Support Your Tribe (Plus The Right Way)
island, beach, travel, lipe, tribe

Today, poolside in Ao Nang, Thailand, I opened a thoughtful email from an old friend. It got me thinking about one of the goals of this trip– to figure out my tribe.

My working definition of a tribe is a group of people who share like-minded personal aspirations. These people ACTIVELY support your growth, and you support theirs.

Not all friends and family are automatic members of your tribe. This is because of the key term ‘active’ as it relates to support.

Active vs Passive, Constructive vs Deconstructive

To explain active support, let’s borrow the concept of Active Constructive Responding conceived by psychologist Shelly Gable. More . . .

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